Gretchen Rubin – My Hero
While vacationing at the beach with my family this year, I read a book that had the potential to be a ‘game-changer’. I’m still thinking about all the ramifications of it and how I can apply it broadly to many things in my life. However, upon my return, I was so exuberant in extolling it’s virtues, that I was promptly made to loan it out! So, I am unable to quote chapter and verse on this little gem, but trust me…you need to get this book in your life.
The title is, “Better Than Before” by Gretchen Rubin. The read is deceptively easy and you find yourself flying through the chapters saying, “Yes! That’s ME!” or “I know exactly the kind of person she’s writing about here!” Gretchen is a student of human nature and behavior and one of her pet subjects is that of ‘habits’. Even though she has a terribly impressive resume herself, (i.e. clerked for a Supreme, no less!) she has turned her attention to the study of others. She seems very interested in the mystery of why people behave the way they do and how can we create lasting, positive habits.
Gretchen has devised four categories that she calls, “The Four Tendencies”. Each tendency represents a different response to expectation (either external or internal). In brief, knowing one’s tendency helps to initiate, propel and solidify habit-formation. I’ll not spoil the surprise, but suffice it to say, you should click on the link below and take Gretchen’s Four Tendencies Quiz and use the information to respond positively to the next expectation that you’d like to incorporate into your life!
*Spoiler Alert* I am an incorrigible ‘Obliger’ – this was not news to me, as most likely your tendency will not be news to you. What is of great importance ls the way in which your particular tendency is motivated to live up to expectation. To that end, I have finally relented and found a group of girls to work out with to whom I can be accountable. Truth be told, it’s a weekly bootcamp and right up until the moment I must get into the car I am pulled in many other directions but two things propel me to make the right decision every time; I have paid for the class in advance and I have no less than five ladies that are counting on me to show up and suffer and laugh together. And so I go…every week, I go.